Setting Boundaries ✨

Boundaries are a form of self care!

What are the different types of boundaries?

Physical Boundaries: personal space, touch etc 
“I don’t want a hug thank you” “Can you please step back a little” 

Intellectual Boundaries: Thoughts, beliefs etc. 
“I realise we have different opinions about this topic. We might like leave it there.” “I think it’s a good idea for us to avoid this conversation”

Emotional Boundaries: Triggers, topics, feelings etc.
“I don’t feel great today - is it ok if we talk about this tomorrow?”

Communication Boundaries: How you’re spoken to.
“Please don’t speak to me like that” 

Material Boundaries: Finances, possessions etc. 
“Is it ok if we meet somewhere cheap for dinner?” “Sorry, you can’t borrow my car today, I need it”

Time Boundaries: Your time
“I can only stay for an hour” “I don’t have time to do that unfortunately”

Sexual Boundaries: Intimacy, sex etc. 
“I don’t enjoy that - let’s try something else” “No, I don’t feel like it today”

Healthy boundaries help us to set what is ok & what isn’t in our lives - it’s a form of self care, and is very normal & necessary. Healthy boundaries are a set of rules or standards for how others can behave around you - it isn’t selfish to make these requests - it’s about honouring YOU and all that you are. 

How to set healthy boundaries:

Define & identify the desired boundary:

“I know we have extremely different views on that topic”

Communicate what you need by staying clear & simple: 

“When we talk about that topic, it leaves me feeling upset & it doesn’t feel very beneficial to either of us.”

Set consequences & say they’re important: 

“I still really want to chat with you, however to avoid negative conversations I would like to avoid this subject moving forward."

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